Why do some people do that?

1 Mar

Once again, I either have too much time in my hands or am procrastinating.

Thing is, I’m thinking about the seemingly overwhelming need some internet users have to perform the (always welcomed) cyber flounce.

In my relatively limited experience (I’ve been online just over a dozen years, but mostly I have stayed put in my little corner of the intratubes, so… limited experience), there are two main types, whether performed on a blog or wider forum.

The brief one consists of a relatively short post, usually ending with, “and I’ll never come back here again!”

The…well, I’ll call it epic flounce, for it’s really much bigger than the previous one. The epic flounce has a few minor variations, but for the most part it’s a longer post (or even a series of posts) giving a helluva lot of unasked-for information, explaining all the reasons that have led the poster to “never come back here again!” (In a few cases, it can be about how other people have forced the poster to close her blog, or to make it private—after posting all about it, of course— or how she’s been banned by the mean girls, etc.)

And I have to wonder at the need to point out that a person is “never coming back here!” Wouldn’t that person’s absence say it for her?

I mean, what is the advantage of announcing one’s departure, “never to return”, on an online venue? Particularly for a self-professed lurker. We have all seen those comments, haven’t we? “I have read this blog faithfully for years, and this is the first time ever that I post, but after *this* I will never come back here again!” Well, how does anyone know whether a) you had even been here before, b) you come back? You didn’t post before, you say you are not posting again—and the difference would be… what, precisely?

Then, once the comment is posted… what? Seriously, what are the flouncers hoping to accomplish with those posts?

Are the blog/forum owners supposed to rush forth, begging the person leaving to stay (or return)? Perhaps change the community to suit the needs of that one person?


Yeah, perhaps I do need to get a life, but these are the kind of things that make me scratch my head and wonder.


One Response to “Why do some people do that?”


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