Vindictiveness

4 Apr

A while back, during one of our infrequent (and never very long) online chats, Karen mentioned that one of the reasons she invited me to contribute here at KKB, is that I am ‘sane.’ I confess that my first instinct was to cackle, “Boy, do I have you fooled!” but she continued, saying something along the lines of, “I know you wouldn’t go deleting old posts if we fell out.”

Delete old posts?

That stopped me in my tracks.

Honestly, think about it.

Who, I thought in my innocence, would do such a thing? There is no benefit to anyone, unless causing someone pain can be considered a benefit.

It’s vindictive. It’s hateful.

And it hurts innocent bystanders—people who participated in discussions over topics dear to their hearts. People who shared personal memories and experiences with readers. People who bonded through the comments and went on to form friendships and/or partnerships online and in their day to day lives. Even people who never posted a word but were moved/entertained/comforted by the words of those who did.

Those people would also be harmed by any sort of mass deletion of material from what is, in essence, a community.

And they would be absolutely innocent of whatever crime the vandal felt s/he was a victim of.

That is the thing that I can’t get over, that’s why I almost couldn’t believe normal people¹ would be actually capable of doing this.

Until this Friday, when it happened at a forum I’ve belonged to for even longer than I’ve posted in romance blogs.

On March 30th, B took it upon herself to delete almost 30 threads (some of them close to 7—yes, you read right, seven—years old, and some of them including pictures of members who have died, members who left years ago, people who never harmed her in any way).

People are angry about it, but many more are also hurt—and baffled.

And what angers me is that some members are dismissing those feelings of anger and hurt and confusion. “Don’t pile on the hate for poor B, it’s not as if she really hurt you.”

I wonder how they would react if all those threads had been truly lost forever² 

 

¹ There are people who do worse, but I don’t consider them normal.

² It took over twelve hours of very hard work by a handful of dedicated people, all volunteers, to recover most of it (it’s very technical and I don’t get any of it, but the balance is that about 24hrs worth of posts and comments were lost).

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