Extremely disappointed–and more than a tad angry.

12 Dec

I am very vocal about my support of Equality Now. As long as women are not viewed as equal in all ways to men, everywhere in the world, Humanity will continue its ever faster descent into chaos.

As I admire Joss Whedon a great deal, I was absolutely delighted when they recognized his contributions to gender equality–and was very sad to learn, just recently, that he actually fired Charisma Carpenter from Angel because she got pregnant¹. Yes, it didn’t fit in his plans for the show, but seriously? fired her?

Total what the fuck, right?

The knowledge will taint my enjoyment of anything Whedon from now on–more’s the pity.

My current disappointment with the organization as a whole  is much deeper. A helluva lot deeper, in fact.

It all started with a comment I got today on my Misogyny and Whorehouse in Texas post (wow, six months later), and while I have no idea whether the comment was legit (the WordPress blog used as id doesn’t exist), it provided a link to a post/article in something called Slixa’s Under Cover². Since I liked the writing, I skimmed around a bit more, and was more than a bit shocked–and saddened and angered–when I read this:

Equality Now ignores the UN’s recommendation to decriminalize sex work.

Sorry, what the actual fuck?

Please note, what the UN report in question actually says: they are talking about adult, consensual sex work. They are NOT condoning sex traffic or any form of abuse of children–which are often the talking points when talking about the evils of prostitution. These two things are not, in any way, shape or form, the same thing.

Why do people who are, supposedly, advocates for women’s rights, continue to refuse to see the difference between choice and sex traffic? How on earth can they not see, what with the blatant example of drugs wreaking havoc everyfuckingwhere in the planet, not see that by advocating to keep sex work illegal they put so many more women and girls at risk?

Yes, many prostitutes are prostitutes because they drink or do drugs, but there are plenty who do it because it pays better than waiting tables or offering fries with your burger, and what the fuck is wrong with that? That they “can’t” get out of it? Well, I’ve been working the fucking service industry for four years now and let me tell you, I cannot get out of that either!

Why is it better–from the “women should be demure and morally upright” camp–to starve while putting up with constant customer abuse in the food industry, than to make a living with your body, as long as it is your choice to do so? And why, oh why on earth, people who are so openly pro-women, don’t listen to a significant segment of the female population of the world, when they tell you that yes, it is a choice?

Athletes sell their bodies’ performance for money, and that is celebrated. Actors perform for money, and that is rewarded. Women choose to use their bodies to survive and they are berated, denigrated, abused both physically and verbally by society–how does that make sense?

As long as sex work is illegal, and as long as pro-women organizations such as Equality Now can see past beyond their own fucking prejudices, women whose only real choice for profitable employment is sex-work will be not only subjected to public social flagellation, but to violence and abuse, unprotected by the laws that cover all other service providers.

Way to go, narrow minded feminists of the world.

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¹ Warning: long video, be patient for the pertinent question and answer.

2 Please note I’m not endorsing the site, as I’m still figuring out what exactly it is about–and why/how I came to get a link to it.


4 Responses to “Extremely disappointed–and more than a tad angry.”

  1. Lori 13/12/2013 at 11:52 PM #

    I loved Buffy but never quite fell into the Whedon love.

    As far as the sex workers: it would be nice if there wasn’t a need for such an industry but there always has been and probably always will be. By denying it, they also deny those women the chance to get proper medical attention, birth control, safe working conditions.

    I agree, equality for women means all women, not just the ones working in the professions that don’t embarrass people.

  2. Lori 15/12/2013 at 4:15 AM #

    I think another thing that I’ve thought about is that the working world has a very subjugated view of women. The truly bad jobs, bad paying and hardest ones are the customer service jobs: the food industry, sales, caregivers.

    These are the jobs where you as a person don’t exist. It’s all one faceless woman that gets treated like shit, when she’s not overlooked completely.

    There’ll always be another faceless female to take the place of the last one. Always be another single mother who has to work in Walmart or McDonalds to try and put food on the table. The companies need these women and need to keep them poor and desperate.

    This country truly hates women/mothers. It’s terrifying when you start to see how little regard is given to the population of working women, how important it is in so many companies to keep the woman down.

    • azteclady 15/12/2013 at 9:20 AM #

      Absolutely! I know that the company I work for aims to hire a higher number women than men. And while most of these are college students, many work for the company without raises for years. One of these girls is very stressed because she needs more money or a second job, but can’t bring herself to ask for a raise–she keeps hoping that her work (which is above excellent) will speak for itself. If she were a man, it would, because the men get raises if they so much as hint as wanting one, but the females? They stay at the same rate until they quit.

      Yet misogyny is rampant not only at the bottom of the job market–via Dear Author I saw this Pantene ad and followed the link to the study that inspired it. What is truly scary is that most women don’t even see that they promote this culture, either by staying silent or by considering women who are not silent, bitches.


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