“Become an engineer”

24 Feb

I posted last September about the amazing speech Emma Watson gave at the UN to launch the equality campaign HeforShe.

I hope people continue to talk about it, and that more men come to realize how liberating, for them, equality can be.

In the meantime, I want to share this–in case any of my gentle readers had missed it.

Emma Watson - become an engineer

Thank you, Emma Watson.

Ane, become an engineer.

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A personal anecdote.

A few years ago my daughter declared she wanted to be a trauma surgeon. She was fourteen at the time, and quite the fan of ER, and was completely taken with the idea of saving people’s lives.

Her father told her, in so many words, that she was pretty enough not to have to worry about trying to do anything so difficult.¹

To be fair, her grades nothing to write home about, and she is pretty.

He could not have said anything better designed to light a fire under her.

This May, she is graduating from FSU with a double major and heading off to medical school in the Fall.

~ * ~



¹ This is but one of the many reasons we were long divorced at that point.

15 Responses to ““Become an engineer””

  1. Julaine 24/02/2015 at 7:28 AM #

    Back in 1981 after graduating from college I was contemplating law school when my Dad made the same suggestion that Emma Watson did, “Become an Engineer, there are enough lawyers in Florida.” I took his advice and went to graduate school for a Computer Engineering degree. Best decision, ever. Thanks, Dad and thank you, Emma.

    • azteclady 24/02/2015 at 7:30 AM #

      Your Dad rocks.

      • Julaine 24/02/2015 at 7:42 AM #

        Yes, he most certainly does. The youngest of 8, he grew up dirt poor unable to even finish high school. He learned to fly, joined the Air Force, served in Korea and then went to work as an airline pilot at a time when it was one of the most glamorous jobs in the world. But what was important was my Mom and his four kids. We ALL went to college. He didn’t care what we studied but he wanted all of us girls to be able to support ourselves & contribute to society. I think he may have been one of the very first feminists, though he would probably reject the label. He just simply wants everyone to reach there potential.

        Congratulations on your daughter’s accomplishment. You should be rightfully proud.. (And there is nothing wrong with being pretty, smart, AND dedicated….and if you need any helpful tips about how to get blood out of scrubs, just let me know, MY daughter just tends to throw hers out which annoys the crap out of me.)

      • azteclady 24/02/2015 at 7:54 AM #

        He didn’t care what we studied but he wanted all of us girls to be able to support ourselves & contribute to society. I think he may have been one of the very first feminists, though he would probably reject the label. He just simply wants everyone to reach there potential.

        Well, that’s exactly what feminism is–no matter how highjacked it has been by different fractions.

        We feminist want all people to be free to be who we are, and to have access to the same opportunities our male counterparts do.

    • Deirdre 24/02/2015 at 7:54 AM #

      My dad loved being a physicist, but hated that he kept getting into situations where he really needed a computer programmer too. So he convinced me to try it out.

      Thirty-eight years (plus two since I’ve worked in the field) and twenty-six programming languages later…. Well, here I am. 🙂

      • azteclady 24/02/2015 at 7:55 AM #

        You ladies had such excellent fathers.

      • Deirdre 24/02/2015 at 7:59 AM #

        We really did.

  2. andarae 25/02/2015 at 2:06 AM #

    My mother told me I shouldn’t bother going to college at all and it was a waste of money. My father said nothing, as he often does. Without any support and having had my nursing major (one of the “acceptable” jobs) chosen for me (I did not enjoy it.), it’s not surprising I lasted only two years. I’m 32 and about to graduate magna cum laude with a BA in History. It is NEVER too late to dream. I have a small son now, and it is for him that I’ve done this. I want him to look at his mother and see a college graduate. I want to tell him that if I could start a business, be a stay at home mother, AND a full-time student, he has NO excuses.

    • azteclady 25/02/2015 at 8:43 AM #

      Your son should be very, very proud of you when he grows up. My hat is off to you.

  3. pooks 26/02/2015 at 8:45 PM #

    I had a writing student, a Latina from South Texas, who was old enough to be my mother, from another generation. She had her Ph.D in Psychology. She said that though he was not educated, her father stressed that all of his daughters had to go to college and helped pay for it, even after they were married and raising families. This was at a time when most women didn’t go to college at all.

    He said, “Educate a son and you educate a man. Educate a daughter and you educate a family. And that changes the world.”

    Amazing man.

    • Julaine 26/02/2015 at 8:51 PM #

      Yes, that is an amazing man. Thankfully, I have encountered many; from father, to mentor, to husband, to son. Strong women, raising extraordinary sons, this is how we prevail.

    • azteclady 26/02/2015 at 9:52 PM #

      What a wonderfully enlightened mindset!


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