(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia)
This one is slightly tongue-in-cheek in its approach, but the author really captures the misogyny inherent on so much of our culture: not a good guy, but the quintessential Nice Guy (TM):
But re-reading Little Women this month, I realized with mounting alarm that as a potential romantic partner for Jo, Laurie isn’t a good guy; he is, in fact, a Nice Guy™. He’s the kind of guy who feels entitled to a woman’s affections because, unasked-for, he has given her his. He’s the kind of guy who uses his friendship with a woman as a cover for repeatedly violating her boundaries and ignoring her rejections. He’s the kind of guy who professes to respect a woman but places more importance on his desire than her feelings.
No. Stop. Don’t. I don’t like that. Go away.
The story of Laurie and Jo is not, as I had previously remembered, one of Jo seeming like she loves Laurie and making an out-of-left-field decision. It is very much in the field! Jo consistently indicates that she does not have feelings for Laurie, does not want him to flirt with her, and tries to prevent him from doing so every time he flirts with her. And he ignores her, again and again.
Allow me to repeat: the kind of guy who professes to respect a woman, but places more importance on his desire than her feelings.
Nice Guys (TM) are the guys who feel entitled to tell a woman they don’t know to smile as she walks by. These are the guys who wonder why women are not grateful to be cat-called or groped. These are the guys who complain that the object of their affections doesn’t automatically return them.
Because whatever these guys feel or intend, trumps whatever the women they are interacting with feel or want.
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