(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia–added footnote)
(My apologies for the lack of commentary for this link–not up to it, for many reasons¹)
On the relationship between misogyny, domestic violence, and mass murder:
“1 in 4 women expected to be a victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in her lifetime.”
“We raise our boys with an acceptance that violence will be part of their behaviors (’boys will be boys’), while teaching them to repress all feelings except for anger (’boys don’t cry’), in a society which objectifies girls and women,” she explained. “While problematic in and of itself (’patriarchy hurts men too’), we see that abusers overwhelming come from abusive background, and thus only replicate patterns they have learned during their childhoods, patterns which, while criminal, are ultimately reinforced in a number of ways in a masculine culture of violence.”
¹ My mother had a cerebral embolism a couple of days ago, and has been in the emergency room since. She’s stable, and will remain in hospital at least a couple of days longer, under observation. Eventually, if everything goes well, her prognosis is fairly decent, considering her age, though she may never recover full mobility.
4500 2000² or so miles away, but fortunately everyone else in the family is pitching in, so she has not been alone for even one minute, and plans are already being considered to ensure she receives proper care, 24/7, once she’s released, so that’s good. It allows me to continue to function almost as normally as I usually do (not quite, but faking it well enough…mostly).
However, I’m also very angry; none of the many doctors who have seen her, repeatedly, for the past few months, took a minute to consider than her sudden and baffling memory lapses could be anything but dementia. None of that, “let’s make sure” shit for them, no sirree. Now that they had to do studies, to find out why she had convulsions and stopped breathing, it turns out she’s been having smaller embolisms for a while.
² Sorry about that–it’s a lot closer, and still, impossibly far.