Descansa en paz, M.A.E.F (May 21, 1935-September 9, 2016)

10 Sep

My mother died last night.

Regular readers of this blog know that she was diagnosed with a glioblastoma in early August, and that, after a failed attempt in August 12, she underwent an operation in August 25, to remove as much of it as possible. The operation itself was a success, and we hoped to receive the results of tissue exams next Monday.

For the past two weeks, she had been stable, physically, and a bit more herself, in the cognitive and emotional sense, than since the July 19 seizures that put her in hospital. We had hopes that, with physical therapy, and the emotional support of the family, she would recover a goodly measure of her independence, and that the quality of her life for however long she might have, would be good.

Unfortunately, last night, as she was being helped into bed, she had an incident of bronchoaspiration. As a result, she went into cardiac arrest. She was revived two times, but her heart gave out again, and there was nothing anyone could do.

It was her time to go.

My eldest brother, who always–always, always–was a presence of care and love for my mother, told me that he and his wife spent a lot of time with her yesterday, and that my mother had had a very happy day. That, in fact, the last three days of her life, my mother repeated often just how happy she was, and how grateful she was for all the love she received.

I am so glad my mother was happy, and herself, for the last days of her life, because she had been so afraid and disoriented during her long, long, hospital stay.

I am so glad to know that my family, and my eldest brother in particular, got to laugh and reminisce with her, just hours before she died.

I am not religious, but my mother was, and so I hope, I pray, she is now at peace, and that her soul basks in joy and glory.

Descansa en paz, mamá.

Muere el sol en los montes,
con la luz que agoniza,
pues la vida en su prisa,
nos conduce a morir.

Pero no importa saber
que voy a tener el mismo final,
porque nos queda el consuelo
que Dios nunca morira.

Voy a dejar
las cosas que amé,
la tierra ideal
me vió nacer;
pero sé que después
habrê de encontrar
la dicha y la paz
que en Dios hallaré.

Sé que la vida empieza
en donde se piensa
que la realidad termina.
Sé que Dios nunca muere,
y que se conmueve
del que busca su beatitud.

Sé que una nueva luz
habra de alcanzar
nuestra soledad,
y que todo aquél
que llega a morir,
empieza a vivir
una eternidad.

Muere el sol en los montes,
con la luz que agoniza,
pues la vida en su prisa,
nos conduce a morir.

Descansa en paz.


41 Responses to “Descansa en paz, M.A.E.F (May 21, 1935-September 9, 2016)”

  1. Sela Carsen 10/09/2016 at 12:01 PM #

    Oh, aztec…I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

  2. Julaine 10/09/2016 at 12:04 PM #

    I am so sorry that this is the way the story ended. I know how hard your whole family worked to give her the very best care and that her quality of life was always your first consideration. You, your mother, & your whole family will be in my thoughts and prayers throughout the coming days.

  3. Lori 10/09/2016 at 2:20 PM #

    AZ, I’m so sorry for your loss but I’m so glad your mother had joy in her last hours. My thoughts and prayer are with you.

    • azteclady 12/09/2016 at 2:57 PM #

      Yes, Lori, knowing she had a few days of normal, of joy, in her own house, and surrounded at all times by love and family, is great comfort.

  4. Miss Bates 10/09/2016 at 3:40 PM #

    I am so so sorry. I pray that you and your family find solace in the love and care you showed your mother and the love and care she held for you. May her memory be eternal, my dear friend.

    • azteclady 12/09/2016 at 2:59 PM #

      Ah Miss Bates, we try–but don’t we always regret whatever we didn’t do for those we love? Guilt is a horrible, insidious emotion, always stronger when we grieve. Thank you for your good thoughts.

  5. Art Kaufmann 10/09/2016 at 10:21 PM #

    Oh, I am so, so very sorry. My condolences to you, and to your family.

  6. Valancy 10/09/2016 at 11:24 PM #

    I am so very sorry. My heartfelt compassion for you and your family at this very difficult time. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    • azteclady 12/09/2016 at 2:59 PM #

      Thank you, Ms Valancy, it is much appreciated.

  7. Helen R-S 11/09/2016 at 7:48 AM #

    I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m thinking of you and your family.

  8. Lea Brown 11/09/2016 at 9:48 AM #

    So very sorry to hear about your Mum, AL. Perhaps it is of some comfort to know she has peace at last and she had family with her as she passed. Many hugs and love to your and yours.

    • azteclady 12/09/2016 at 3:00 PM #

      Thank you, Lea; as I told Lori, it is comforting to know that she had such happy days, particularly after those hellish seven weeks.

  9. Jules Jones 11/09/2016 at 11:44 AM #

    I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m glad you at least have the comfort of knowing her final day was happy and her passing swift.

  10. bamaclm 11/09/2016 at 1:17 PM #

    My thoughts are with you, Az, but oh, how wonderful her last days were. Full of love and family. I send you many hugs and some tears as well. ❤

    • azteclady 12/09/2016 at 3:01 PM #

      And many, tight, loving hugs right back at you, my dear. Holding a light up for you and yours too.

  11. willaful 11/09/2016 at 7:50 PM #

    I’m so sorry, my friend. Peace to you and the others in your family.

  12. shallowreader 12/09/2016 at 9:26 AM #

    I am so sorry for your loss. Lots of strength to you and your family.

    • azteclady 12/09/2016 at 3:04 PM #

      Thank you, Vasiliki, I appreciate it.

  13. Erin S. Burns 12/09/2016 at 5:37 PM #

    My sincerest condolences on your loss, but I am so glad her last days were happy ones.

    • azteclady 12/09/2016 at 5:42 PM #

      Thank you, Erin; yes, that is a comfort to all of us.

  14. Bona 13/09/2016 at 12:26 PM #

    Un abrazo fuerte para ti y toda la familia. Ante algo tan doloroso, las palabras son insuficientes, pero no hay otra cosa. Me ha emocionado leerte, gracias por contar estos momentos duros, y aquí estamos para lo que quieras compartir. Bss.

    • azteclady 13/09/2016 at 12:33 PM #

      Muchas gracias, Bona *abrazo*

      Las palabras ayudan y confortan, porque detras hay sentimientos genuinos y generosos.

  15. Kat 14/09/2016 at 7:34 AM #

    I’m so sorry for your loss, AZ. I just really have no words. You and your family are in my thoughts.

  16. Ariel Hudnall [Alex Hurst] 18/09/2016 at 11:30 PM #

    I am so sorry for your loss, but am gladdened to hear that she did not have to suffer in her last few days. I’m glad her family was with her (in body and spirit). Hugs, if accepted.

  17. Frances 20/09/2016 at 12:29 AM #

    Aztec Lady, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and best wishes are with you at this sad time. Take care of yourself.

  18. Holly 22/09/2016 at 2:22 PM #

    AL, I’m so very sorry to hear about your mother. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.


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