Tag Archives: International Women’s Day

“Smile, sweetheart”

7 Oct

(This was originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia;
it has also been expanded with some content that is not appropriate for/allowed in that venue)

I post the following link with a caveat: the title of the article mentions Hillary Clinton, currently a candidate for the Presidency of the USoA. The article itself is not about politics per se, but about sexism.

Specifically, the sexism of telling women to smile.

To wit:

Women hate being told to smile, and it’s only in the past four years or so that I’ve completely lost patience with it. The last time was the grocery store employee who walked by me and told me to “smile, sweetheart,” and I gave him a nasty look and moved on. No one tells a male stranger to smile; only women are expected to placidly smile all the time.

There is a lot of important stuff in that piece, and I encourage readers of this thread to follow the link and read it in its entirety.

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Conduct unbecoming?

30 Sep

(Originally posted to the Community section at MyMedia)

Scenario: a woman is walking out of a building toward her car when a man grabs her from behind and lifts her off her feet.

After a couple of seconds of paralyzed surprise, the woman elbows the man in the face and frees herself. As she turns around, yelling “who the fuck are you?” the man in question–a stranger to her–runs off.

Would you consider her reaction outrageous?

Would you call her behaviour after being attacked–and yes, grabbing someone from behind and lifting them off their feet, is an attack–unladylike, unbecoming, too aggressive, ‘not model’ behaviour?

Well, it so happens this scenario is not made up.

Not only have millions of women around the world experienced this, as a prelude to being robbed, raped, beaten and more. And here we have just one example, caught on camera:
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Fathers, it’s high time you took responsibility.

26 Aug

Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia;
a bit of content added at the end.

I am personally not opposed to ethical pornography, just as I am not opposed to women choosing to be sex workers (though the legalization of sex work is a hot button, often politicized, so I’ll stop right here on that).

Ethical pornography, for those wondering, is made by people who a) want to be there*, and b) are of legal age to sign contracts to that effect.

However.

I became aware, a couple of weeks ago, of a scandal in Australia, wherein young boys–and I mean boys, as young as 13/14– mostly from expensive private schools, share pornography through online forums created and maintained exclusively for this purpose.

Which, despite the young age of the users, I would still be okay with, if–and this is a big if–the people whose images are being shared had consented to this.

Instead, it turns out, these boys are literally hunting naked images of school girls–in many cases, classmates!!!–to share with other boys across the country. And, as packs always do, the boys, and occasional young adult man, encourage each other to greater depths of immoral behaviour, by rewarding each other for ‘wins’ (aka, specific images of specific girls, targeted often at the request of someone who knows that girl).

Mind boggling?

Should be, yes.
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History, HERstory, our story

30 Jul

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia)
(added some stuff here, probably barely coherent musings,
that is not appropriate for that forum)

I have many feels about many things right now–among them, the nomination of a white woman for the presidency of the US by a major political party. Hate her, love her, be indifferent to her, the mere fact that she was nominated is breathtaking.

But since talking too much about the candidate herself would immediately veer into verboten territory (though, there is a forum for that), let’s celebrate feminism and race, by checking this twitter trending hashtag:  BlackWomenDidThat.

And lets ponder how few of them we, as a society, are familiar with. How many names of minority women have been erased from history. Their sin? Being female first, being non-white second. (See Lenora Fulani)

Equality has many facets–lets make them all shine.
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Misogyny, domestic violence, mass murder.

22 Jul

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia–added footnote)

(My apologies for the lack of commentary for this link–not up to it, for many reasons¹)

On the relationship between misogyny, domestic violence, and mass murder:

“1 in 4 women expected to be a victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in her lifetime.”

“We raise our boys with an acceptance that violence will be part of their behaviors (’boys will be boys’), while teaching them to repress all feelings except for anger (’boys don’t cry’), in a society which objectifies girls and women,” she explained. “While problematic in and of itself (’patriarchy hurts men too’), we see that abusers overwhelming come from abusive background, and thus only replicate patterns they have learned during their childhoods, patterns which, while criminal, are ultimately reinforced in a number of ways in a masculine culture of violence.”

Source.
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Gender representation in the US (and, really, the world)

8 Jul

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia–first link edited to this blog)

On the first post of this thread, I stated that I am a feminist, and I expanded on that by repeating something often lost in the acrimony that word evokes: I want women–and people who do not reflect a strict gender binary, and people belonging to minorities of all types–not to be second class human beings.

Because the reality around the world is that, no matter what the laws on the books may say,¹ people are treated differently by society, based on factors which are beyond their control (sex, gender identity, color, ethnicity), and which have no proven bearing on their actual capacity, skills, talent, professionalism, or performance in any area.

There are many reasons groups of people treat other groups of people as ‘less than,’ but those are not static factors. We can change this toxic environment.

The first step? Acknowledge there is a problem.
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Madonna and (man)whore

6 Jul

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia–edited first link, and added content at the end.)

Previously, I touched on the incredible gender bias in healthcare.

Among other things, I mentioned that often, when women are in pain, we are told that ‘it’s all in our heads.’ Unsurprisingly, insurance companies are also happy to tell us that sexual issues–from low libido to vaginal dryness–are also in our heads. Men with low testosterone and/or erectile dysfunction just have to watch tv or go online to find multitude of options for treatment–most, if not all, of which, are fully covered by their insurance.

Women? No, little lady, first you have to go get your head shrunk; then…We’ll see.

Or, you know, live with it.

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A good fifth of the times I look at a news piece that includes video, there’s an advertisement for Viagra, or some other sex help drug for males. In contrast, the constant barrage of conservative ‘pro-life’ and ‘anti erosion of family values’ and rape apologist headlines is…breathtaking.

Men’s needs, men’s perceptions, men’s opinions–always oh so much more important than anyone else’s.

Fuck that noise.