Tag Archives: Laci Green

Why is it so hard to admit that misogyny actually kills people?

27 May

Updated 06/07/17: I have become aware that Ms Green is not only transphobic, but that she is currently dating a white supremacists/Nazi wannabe/’alt-right’ guy. So, while there is a lot of good information and sex positivity in her channel for cisgender individuals, her online presence as a whole, and her current behaviour, speak of deeply held prejudices. “Dime con quién andas, y te diré quién eres” (you can tell who people are, by the company they keep), after all. If you are gender fluid, you probably will want to avoid watching.

This is the question that Laci Green asks at the end of this video:

DISCLAIMER: NSFW, mostly for language, but it also may be offensive for those people who feel sorry for a mass murderer and advise women to be less stuck up–aka, exercise their right to say “no, I won’t date/fuck you”

 

 

Why is it so hard to admit that misogyny actually kills people?

Because we–all of us, women included–would have to accept our own responsibility for the rampant misogyny in western culture. How we react to the behaviour and comments of the men in our own lives–friends, relatives, children. Or, more to the point, how we fail to react, never pointing out to them, and to those watching, that their comments and behaviours are misogynistic, offensive and unacceptable.

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On feminism: awesome video

24 Apr

Mostly because of language, this may not be safe for work for some, particularly those employed by conservative outfits.

I disagree with one, perhaps two of the reasons Ms Green gives for her being a feminist, but on the whole, this is a most excellent list, and I love this comment:

I thoroughly enjoyed this video because it points out one of the most infuriating misconceptions to people outside academia:

Feminism wants to deconstruct all gender double standards. This serves to benefit men as well. Conscription? Feminism has an issue with that. Comparatively harsh prison sentences? Feminism has an issue with that. Custody bias? Teaching men not to feel or express emotions? Emphasis on bulking up?

You guessed it: we have problems with those.

Agreed!

Assorted weirdness

24 Sep

Updated 06/07/17: I have become aware that Ms Green is not only transphobic, but that she is currently dating a white supremacists/Nazi wannabe/’alt-right’ guy. So, while there is a lot of good information and sex positivity in her channel for cisgender individuals, her online presence as a whole, and her current behaviour, speak of deeply held prejudices. “Dime con quién andas, y te diré quién eres” (you can tell who people are, by the company they keep), after all. If you are gender fluid, you probably will want to avoid watching.

Last night I found Laci Green’s SEX+ youtube channel and indulged in an veritable orgy of watching. If you have kids, I STRONGLY recommend you spend a few hours watching, choose a few and ensure your teen watches them. I cannot stress enough how I wish someone had been both knowledgeable enough and frank enough with me during my teens, to tell me half the stuff she’s talking about.

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This morning I had an interview. It’s in-company, with the idea of finally moving on to a salary manager position. Was depressed once more at the fact that all the people in the corporate office I saw are these skinny blonde twentysomething women who haven’t worked facing the customers in their short privileged lives.

And yet, they are the ones making the decisions, God help me.

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To cheer myself up a bit, I stopped at my only remaining local romance friendly used book store, where I dropped $30 I cannot afford (hey, that’s nine books, sue me).

Unfortunately, the books! all mine! to read! glow was smothered by the conversation held loudly by the clerk (not the owner, thank you baby Jesus) and another regular customer.

Why, you may ask?

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Not about reviews

16 Jul

In the wake of the latest online kerfuffle involving authors and readers, I have read way too many comments (here and here to name but two) that focus on how authors should a) avoid reviews, b) not comment on reviews, c) grow a thicker skin, d) realize reviews are for readers, e) vent in private, keep a professional façade in public, etc

All sound advice, to be sure, if this was simply one. more. instance. of appallingly unprofessional and thin skinned snowflakes putting books out there for people to read and react to, and then having kittens when people do read (and react to) what they put out.

It’s not.

These commenters (who are mostly women) are missing the point entirely.

The point is that these people (some of whom may also be women) are attacking these female reviewers with utter viciousness for behaviour that many other male reviewers engage in, often, and without noticeable consequences.

Seriously–go check the titles of Roger Ebert‘s books. Now tell me, how come no one ever attacks him this way. And if/when he is attacked for being a meanie, you won’t see his parenting or housekeeping abilities brought up.

So let’s stop hiding behind the “authors behaving badly” issue and address the real one. Continue reading