Tag Archives: misogyny

Devastated.

9 Nov

Whatever social progress was made in the last six decades in the USoA?

Pretty much sure to be gone within six months. The Voting Rights Act was gutted, and the next President elect is a misogynist, a xenophobe, a racist, an ignoramus, a compulsive liar, who says things like “I will consult myself first, because I have a very good brain, and I have said things,” with a straight face. But hey, he’s a white cis philanderer who’s proud of how he can grab women’s genitals, because he’s a ‘celebrity.’

The fate of the planet in the face of a US President who believes climate change is a hoax?

Yeah, I should start making plans to move inland from Florida soon.

And I don’t even want to think about what is going to happen to the world’s economy with this…this waste of space plutocrat wannabe and his cadre of self serving ass-kissers in power in the USoA for dog knows how long.

It sure looks like all that ‘post-racial’ society crap was indeed a very thin veneer barely covering hatred.

May the universe have pity on us all.

“Smile, sweetheart”

7 Oct

(This was originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia;
it has also been expanded with some content that is not appropriate for/allowed in that venue)

I post the following link with a caveat: the title of the article mentions Hillary Clinton, currently a candidate for the Presidency of the USoA. The article itself is not about politics per se, but about sexism.

Specifically, the sexism of telling women to smile.

To wit:

Women hate being told to smile, and it’s only in the past four years or so that I’ve completely lost patience with it. The last time was the grocery store employee who walked by me and told me to “smile, sweetheart,” and I gave him a nasty look and moved on. No one tells a male stranger to smile; only women are expected to placidly smile all the time.

There is a lot of important stuff in that piece, and I encourage readers of this thread to follow the link and read it in its entirety.

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Conduct unbecoming?

30 Sep

(Originally posted to the Community section at MyMedia)

Scenario: a woman is walking out of a building toward her car when a man grabs her from behind and lifts her off her feet.

After a couple of seconds of paralyzed surprise, the woman elbows the man in the face and frees herself. As she turns around, yelling “who the fuck are you?” the man in question–a stranger to her–runs off.

Would you consider her reaction outrageous?

Would you call her behaviour after being attacked–and yes, grabbing someone from behind and lifting them off their feet, is an attack–unladylike, unbecoming, too aggressive, ‘not model’ behaviour?

Well, it so happens this scenario is not made up.

Not only have millions of women around the world experienced this, as a prelude to being robbed, raped, beaten and more. And here we have just one example, caught on camera:
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Misogyny, domestic violence, mass murder.

22 Jul

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia–added footnote)

(My apologies for the lack of commentary for this link–not up to it, for many reasons¹)

On the relationship between misogyny, domestic violence, and mass murder:

“1 in 4 women expected to be a victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in her lifetime.”

“We raise our boys with an acceptance that violence will be part of their behaviors (’boys will be boys’), while teaching them to repress all feelings except for anger (’boys don’t cry’), in a society which objectifies girls and women,” she explained. “While problematic in and of itself (’patriarchy hurts men too’), we see that abusers overwhelming come from abusive background, and thus only replicate patterns they have learned during their childhoods, patterns which, while criminal, are ultimately reinforced in a number of ways in a masculine culture of violence.”

Source.
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Gender representation in the US (and, really, the world)

8 Jul

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia–first link edited to this blog)

On the first post of this thread, I stated that I am a feminist, and I expanded on that by repeating something often lost in the acrimony that word evokes: I want women–and people who do not reflect a strict gender binary, and people belonging to minorities of all types–not to be second class human beings.

Because the reality around the world is that, no matter what the laws on the books may say,¹ people are treated differently by society, based on factors which are beyond their control (sex, gender identity, color, ethnicity), and which have no proven bearing on their actual capacity, skills, talent, professionalism, or performance in any area.

There are many reasons groups of people treat other groups of people as ‘less than,’ but those are not static factors. We can change this toxic environment.

The first step? Acknowledge there is a problem.
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Madonna and (man)whore

6 Jul

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia–edited first link, and added content at the end.)

Previously, I touched on the incredible gender bias in healthcare.

Among other things, I mentioned that often, when women are in pain, we are told that ‘it’s all in our heads.’ Unsurprisingly, insurance companies are also happy to tell us that sexual issues–from low libido to vaginal dryness–are also in our heads. Men with low testosterone and/or erectile dysfunction just have to watch tv or go online to find multitude of options for treatment–most, if not all, of which, are fully covered by their insurance.

Women? No, little lady, first you have to go get your head shrunk; then…We’ll see.

Or, you know, live with it.

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A good fifth of the times I look at a news piece that includes video, there’s an advertisement for Viagra, or some other sex help drug for males. In contrast, the constant barrage of conservative ‘pro-life’ and ‘anti erosion of family values’ and rape apologist headlines is…breathtaking.

Men’s needs, men’s perceptions, men’s opinions–always oh so much more important than anyone else’s.

Fuck that noise.

“Straight white dudes 18 to 49 are the default mode for life”

22 Jun

Originally posted to the Community section at MyMedia

As I’ve said before in this thread, I am a genre romance reader.

For many years, this was not something I said out loud–and to this day, when people become aware of this, the response is a smirking, condescending smile, often followed by a variant of “aren’t you smarter than that? why do you waste your time on that trash? oh, you like mommy/soft porn?”

I am more than a bit tired of that bullshit. It says a lot more about my interlocutor in those exchanges, than about me, frankly. So, online or IRL, my response tends to be the equivalent of a blank stare; I’m done defending my reading choices, and genre romance brings in enough money that it should need no defense.

One would think…

At any rate, that’s a rant for another day.

Today’s rant is brought to you courtesy of yet another intersection of various interests.

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