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Advice to parents–from a misogynist

6 Aug

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia)

Now for some levity.

Male writer for Slate tweets, “Advice to parents: teach your daughters to say “no” firmly and mean it. Men sense women’s willingness to yield.”¹

Women on twitter: Do you even know how many women are killed by men they said “NO” (firmly and clearly) every year?

Male writer: ‘Actually’ I wasn’t talking about sexual assault, I meant like Maxine Waters exchange with Steven Mnuchin.²

Women: Oh, you mean when she had to repeat 39 times “Reclaiming my time” as he spoke over her; then when she had to ask the MAN with the gavel to explain the rules to Mnuchin after she had just explained them to him, and STILL he didn’t actually answer the question?

Male writer: These women and their “twitter outrage!”³

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Five Books Everyone Should Read, at the Book Binge

26 Jul

The lovely ladies of The Book Binge have been running a weekly feature this year, inviting readers, bloggers, authors, and publishing professionals, to share five titles that have touched them and stayed with them throughout the years.

I was quite honored to have been invited to participate. You can find my list of recommendations here.

Thank you, Holly and Rowena!

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Well, then, that’s a hell of a note.

5 May

Yet another rant, yet another what the fuck moment chez aztec.

On Sunday, Wendy posted her feelings about the current state of the romance blogging community.

On Monday, Sunita posted her reaction to that post.

Below are my responses to both blog posts, in the order I posted them.

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Some ways in which reading romance novels improves your life

12 Mar

I wrote the post below the fold for this forum, and published it there originally on March 5th, 2015.

I have been a member there (in both its incarnations) since September 2004, most of that time as a moderator. It is hard to keep a place like that afloat, for it costs money and there’s never a lot of that around. The owner of record most often has to bail us out and pay for server space, etc out of his own pocket. To encourage people to stick around and perhaps use the affiliate links, I try to create content when I can. I also re-post my reviews there, eventually (I’m a couple of months behind at present).

There are over 250 of my reviews posted there. I would say that about 99% of them are for romances of one flavor or another. In all the years I’ve been posting all those reviews, I can count with the fingers of one hand the people who have come out and said, “Oh, I read romance” or “Oh, I’ve read that one.”

The number of people who have read those reviews, though, can number in the thousands, and I’m told there are some purchases from the links therein. The stigma of being a romance reader, at least in that community, is very marked. Hence, my occasionally tweaking the members a bit.

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Holy shit, is this for real? (Yet *another* post on entitlement)

16 Jan

My list of people whose work I’ll never try because they are assholes towards readers grows by the minute.

Which is kinda sad, because I’ve heard that some of those books are awesome.

On the other hand, there are thousands upon thousands of new books out there, many of them written and published by writer-type people who respect readers even when they disagree with them. I know. What a concept, right?

Plus my TBR pile is scary, so it’s not as if I’m going to be running out of reading material any time soon.

I have been pondering the whole dust up going around over an author doing a Kickstarter for her book. Jane at Dear Author talked about it here, and Lori poked some fun here.

(edited 3/29/15 to add: excellent piece by Jenny Trout)

(edited 4/7/15: storyfy with hard numbers and discussion)

Me? I’m just a little fed up with how some people feel entitled to my money and my time.

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Thinking time – why I blog, why I review

3 Jan

Today is the third anniversary of Her Hands, My Hands.

(Lest some readers be confused, all posts predating January 3rd, 2012 come from elsewhere.¹)

At different times since 2008, when I first started reviewing, I have written my thoughts on what reviews mean and who they are written for. Like many other bloggers, I’ve struggled with whether or not to accept ARCs and commit to post reviews on specific dates.²

2014 was a very challenging year for book bloggers, and many of them have either closed their doors or quietly gone private. Their voices will be missed, but honestly, who can blame them?

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No, it’s NOT bullying.

31 Oct

It’s been a weird few weeks and people’s danders are aup all over the place.

But please, could we try and use this one correctly?

No, what the toxic egg aka Nut is doing is not bullying¹–because it is not in a position of power.2

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