Tag Archives: violence against women

Biology, social conditioning, sex and pain

29 Jan

(Originally posted to the Community forum at MyMedia)

So.

#MeToo.

Women talking for a few weeks (perhaps just over a month?*) about their experiences with different levels of sexual violence/assault/harassment.

Lo and behold, to most women’s sorrow, yet utter lack of surprise, it turns out the most of the women we know have suffered some sort of sexual violence, and sometimes several different kinds, sometimes more than once over the course of their lives, sometimes at the hands of several different men.

And the natural response, from #notallmen, is to express their dismay that all this outpouring of female suffering…will make their dating lives harder.

That men will become afraid of dating, because “accusations of sexual abuse/domestic partner violence ruin lives!” (I can off the top of my head name at least an even dozen of male celebrities whose professional lives have suffered NO HARM, regardless of how many people bring receipts–hello, Woody Allen, Johnny Depp, Chris Brown, Casey Affleck, Donald Trump, Floyd Maywather, Kobe Bryant, Azis Ansari, Mike Tyson, James Franco, Al Franken, Joel Kramer, Kevin Spacey).

That mostly women accuse men to ‘gain something’ or ‘for revenge’ (the ultimate whine on that vein: Larry Nassar’s letter to the sentencing judge quoting ‘hell hath no fury’).

And, the icing on the WTAF cake: that women should consider/understand/learn about how men cannot control themselves because ‘biology.’ That this is ‘just how men are.’ The pseudo grown up version of ‘boys will be boys,’ if you will.

So, let’s talk biology, social conditioning, and pain.
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“If women didn’t…”

15 Oct

Originally posted to the Community section at MyMedia

When Tippi Hedren said that Alfred Hitchock harassed her in the set of The Birds, Hitchcock ‘experts’ were given page space and air time to call her a liar.

When 60 (SIXTY!) women came forward to say that Bill Cosby had raped them, we were told that all they wanted was money and fame–and he was acquitted.

When Brock Turner was found guilty of raping an unconscious woman, his father asked the court to consider that ’20 minutes of action’ shouldn’t weigh more than the potential of his future–and the judge agreed, sentencing a convicted rapist to six months of jail, of which he served three.

When ~20 women said that Donald Trump–who had admitted on tape to grabbing women by the pussy and ‘just kissing them’ without asking or waiting for consent–had sexually assaulted them, the ripple of shock lasted less than two weeks, and his ass presently sits at the White House, supporting misogynistic measures, approving of literal Nazis, and signing executive orders cancelling subsidies for health care for the poorest in the country.

Now that Harvey Weinstein is on the hot seat for serially abusing women for decades, including raping them, we hear condemnation for…Hillary Clinton, currently a private citizen.

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#notallmen – just enough of them.

3 Sep

Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia

“Why do you keep hating on misogynistic white cis men? #notallmen, you know?”

If fewer white cis men were passing so many laws that directly attack women, and if the majority of people proposing and supporting such laws were *not* misogynistic white cis men, I probably would stop.

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“Every (fetus’) life is sacred”

13 Aug

(Originally posted to the Communty section of MyMedia)

(Please see update note at the end)

In the great abortion debate, a couple of things are usually omitted by the “every fetus’ life is sacred!”* brigade.

For one, cis-men can–and do–impregnate people with uteri and walk away with zero consequences, all the time.

Yes, yes, yes; people who give birth can demand paternity tests and whatever, and go to court, and spend YEARS trying to get some child support from those cis-men. A hell of a lot of the time, fathers shrug their financial (and emotional) responsibilities off, and go on their merry way.

And you know what? No one ever says to cis-men of any age, “Abortion is murder, stop having sex!” while all over the place, cis-men will snark at people with uteri, “if you don’t want to get pregnant, stop having sex, you slut!”

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Advice to parents–from a misogynist

6 Aug

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia)

Now for some levity.

Male writer for Slate tweets, “Advice to parents: teach your daughters to say “no” firmly and mean it. Men sense women’s willingness to yield.”¹

Women on twitter: Do you even know how many women are killed by men they said “NO” (firmly and clearly) every year?

Male writer: ‘Actually’ I wasn’t talking about sexual assault, I meant like Maxine Waters exchange with Steven Mnuchin.²

Women: Oh, you mean when she had to repeat 39 times “Reclaiming my time” as he spoke over her; then when she had to ask the MAN with the gavel to explain the rules to Mnuchin after she had just explained them to him, and STILL he didn’t actually answer the question?

Male writer: These women and their “twitter outrage!”³

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Round up of links: International Women’s Day

4 Aug

Below the fold are a number of links to different pieces on sexism, which were originally posted to this thread, in the Community section of MyMedia during June and July.

Some of the

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A little dog: an emblem of male fragility

30 Jun

(Originally posted to the Community section at MyMedia)

Male artist makes a statue of a little dog raising its leg to pee, and places it so that its aiming at the feet of the Fearless Girl statue on Wall Street.

He says it’s not an anti-feminist statement, but a protest because the Girl is ‘interfering’ with the work of another artist (the creator of the Wall Street Charging Bull).

Never mind that the Girl is there for a limited time (extended to February 2018), after which it’ll be shunted somewhere else, out of view.

Call me whatever you want, but I find it incredibly amusing that the little, innocent, peeing dog, was designed specifically to interfere (not interact) with the work of another artist (the creator of the Girl). Irony, dead.

Also endlessly amusing: the peeing dog creator didn’t get a permit, and removed his work after about three hours–presumably, just long enough for people to post images to social media, and to get feminists riled up–because he didn’t want someone (cops, maybe?) to ‘take it.’

Male fragility, what you gonna do?