Tag Archives: violence against women

Understanding consent: a cup of tea

13 May

Originally posted almost two years ago to the Community section of MyMedia.

I thought I had posted something about it here as well at that time, but a search shows me that I hadn’t. Unfortunately, people (mostly men, but not just men), seem to continue to struggle to understand consent as a concept, so I’m remedying the oversight now.

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A couple of months ago, someone sent me a link to a blog post that used an innocuous, simple analogy to explain consent.

Why even go there? Easy. As the author, one Rockstar Dinosaur Pirate Princess, explains, it’s because it would seem people just don’t get it:
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Women have it SO good.

6 May

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia)

Another day in that Utopia where “women have it so good.”

A couple of months ago, Oklahoma State Representative Justin Humphrey kindly explained that women who become pregnant are merely hosts, stupidly deluded into thinking that it is their own body going through the pregnancy. Therefore, and whether that pregnancy is simply unplanned, not wanted, or the result of rape, those women ‘invited it in’ and should therefore be required to obtain the father’s permission in order to obtain an abortion.

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IWD thread: an update

7 Apr

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia)

For those who read this thread, I offer an apology.

It’s very difficult for me, given current events, to find motivation to continue talking about the need for everyone–including women–to see everyone else–particularly women, both cis and trans, and gender fluid/gender queer people–as equals.

The current administration has declared April to be “Sexual Assault Awareness Month.”

Irony has died.

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That didn’t take long.

16 Mar

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia)

And…it took barely two days after the Fearless Girl was installed, before a particularly privileged white male, to the applause of some of his friends, thought it funny to mock fuck it.

“Almost as if out of central casting, some Wall Street finance broseph appeared and started humping the statue while his gross date rape-y friends laughed and cheered him on,”

I imagine many people, particularly men, will shrug the incident off. And that the same tire platitutdes will be uttered.

Boys will be boys! They were probably drunk! It’s a harmless joke!

Considering how often real women, and young girls, are exposed to this same behaviour, and how often these assaults are dismissed with these same attitudes/excuses…yeah, call me over sensitive, but both the behaviour and all the justifications for it are, precisely, why feminism is needed.

The girl and the bull

15 Mar

(Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia)

On January 21 of this year, millions of women marched–on Washington DC, on large cities like New York or Los Angeles, and in small towns. They marched in the United States, and they marched around the world. They marched for all women, and for humanity itself.

A few weeks later, a bronze statue of a girl was set in front of the iconic bronze bull on Wall Street. Seemingly fearless, this young, unarmed female stares down a charging bull many times her size.

Immediately, praise was heaped upon the idea and what it purports to symbolize.

Here’s why it’s neither deserving of acclaim, nor representative of women:

Let’s have a little look at this statue for a minute. What we have here is a skinny little girl, normatively dressed for her assumed gender, with her hair in a ponytail. She looks very young, and she does not have anything in her hands, such as a gun, a matador’s cape, or an angry hive of bees — anything that would actually do something about a charging bull.

Her pose dramatically evokes bravery, but the statue, however well meaning, is a bunch of really stupid consciousness-raising — whereas the Day Without a Woman actually got a whole lot of women more deeply aware of the fact that what we do in the world keeps the world going, and that when we stop doing those things the world stops.

And those women and girls would not only be there for a month. Those women and girls would be there in bronze, taking that bull down forever.

Let’s stop normalizing abuse towards women

13 Oct

Here’s the thing…

Just as electing the first Black President in the history of this country has not only NOT eliminated racism, but often brought bigotry out into the open in sometimes unexpected ways, and places, electing Hillary Clinton would not mean that we live in a world where sexism, discrimination and misogyny are the exception rather than the rule.

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Fathers, it’s high time you took responsibility.

26 Aug

Originally posted to the Community section of MyMedia;
a bit of content added at the end.

I am personally not opposed to ethical pornography, just as I am not opposed to women choosing to be sex workers (though the legalization of sex work is a hot button, often politicized, so I’ll stop right here on that).

Ethical pornography, for those wondering, is made by people who a) want to be there*, and b) are of legal age to sign contracts to that effect.

However.

I became aware, a couple of weeks ago, of a scandal in Australia, wherein young boys–and I mean boys, as young as 13/14– mostly from expensive private schools, share pornography through online forums created and maintained exclusively for this purpose.

Which, despite the young age of the users, I would still be okay with, if–and this is a big if–the people whose images are being shared had consented to this.

Instead, it turns out, these boys are literally hunting naked images of school girls–in many cases, classmates!!!–to share with other boys across the country. And, as packs always do, the boys, and occasional young adult man, encourage each other to greater depths of immoral behaviour, by rewarding each other for ‘wins’ (aka, specific images of specific girls, targeted often at the request of someone who knows that girl).

Mind boggling?

Should be, yes.
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