Tag Archives: Yes means yes

Yes means Yes–hell, yeah!

29 Sep

I’ve often spoken here and elsewhere about women’s right, sexual violence and misogyny, so reading about the passing of the Yes means Yes Sexual Assault Rule makes me very happy indeed.

This is great news about a big step in the right direction. We are finally taking open measures to educate everyone on women’s rights–which, it is my hope, will bring about equality for men as well as women.

Kudos to California–and boo hiss to the idiots that say that passing this law is tantamount to “presume the guilt of the accused.”

For too long the presumption has been that woman who file reports of rape are liars and whores, it’s about time the shoe was in the other foot.

So, ladies and gentlemen out there: the only way for a woman–or a man!–to consent to have sex, is for that individual to say YES. For their sake and your own, never assume that just because they don’t scream “no,” they are actually eager for you to put your sexual organs–or hands, mouth, or proxies thereof–near their bodies.

Testing boundaries…and not liking the consequences

20 Dec

A couple of days ago I became aware of the case of a Georgia high school student who has been suspended for a year, accused of sexual harassment for hugging a teacher. This suspension means that he won’t be eligible for a lacrosse scholarship he was counting on to attend college, which in turn makes everyone feel sorry for the kid.

I feel something quite different.

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Misogyny and whorephobia: sanctioned by law (Texas, US law, at least)

15 Jun

3 and a half years ago, on Christmas 2009, Ezekiel Gilbert–white male–agreed to meet with escort Lenora Ivie Frago through a Craiglist add.

Gilbert invited Frago over to his house and paid her $150. Frago declined to have sex with Gilbert and refused to refund the money–the only record of exactly how these two things came to pass comes to us through Gilbert, who as a direct consequence of them,used an AK47 to paint Frago’s car with bullets.

Frago didn’t die on the spot. Brain damaged and paralyzed, she survived for a few months.

Yesterday Last week, a jury acquitted this murderer.

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Seriously, do NOT be that guy–and do not make apologies for him either.

19 Mar

Don’t be the manchild incapable of controlling himself.

Don’t be the man who can’t be held responsible if an attractive woman happens to be in his vicinity.

Don’t be the cowardly manchild who bleats, “She made me do it!” (because she was there, all attractive and female and shit), “she asked for it” (because she was wearing whatever it was she was wearing), “she didn’t say no” (because she was physically incapable of doing so, not that it would actually have made a difference).Just because - unconscious

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